Tama is she. And Ken is he and that's why the naughty bird is also called a friendzoned bird. Because he is so close, but not
I can tell when someone throws their kendama if they've ever played a sport (particularly baseball) or not.
FWIW in Japan the JKA calls kendama and the training/culture around it "Kendama-dō." "Dō" in this case roughly translates to "the way of" so Kendo is "the way of the sword." The structure of the JKA training is very similar to martial arts like Karate, Judo, Kendo, etc. Because of that way of thinking/training they respect the kendama itself because of what it represents. When you watch a JKA match they hold it at their side like holding a sword when they bow at the beginning and end of the matches. To their way of thinking you'd never disrespect your sword by throwing it down so equally you shouldn't throw down your kendama.
Just like that time when Iron Chef Morimoto faced off with Bobby Flay and Flay jumped onto one of the prep tables and Morimoto said the gesture was disrespectful. I kinda take that concept in respect of the Japanese Culture; everything you do is a sacred art that should be treated with respect. This probably explains why most of my damas don't look so thrashed.